After the Election, How Do We Begin?

After the election, how do we begin to. . .

by Jodi Clark

Heal, move forward, feel our experience and extreme mix of emotions, not wallow in outrage and despair or let go of a sense of helplessness on what has happened. . .?

This was how I walked into GRTL Wednesday morning, carrying the knowledge of what has transpired in this election. Our country has expressed its deepest divisions, unveiled racism, bigotry, sexism, homophobia, disregard for the environment, hatred, fear, and more that has been bubbling under the surface for a long time. I was carrying this, feeling it off to the side of me. I could have totally gone there and stayed there. And yet above all of this, even more painful than all of these things, what rose was how desperately I missed my cat who passed away at the end of September. In the swirl of all of this disconnection, I wanted my beloved companion of 21 years to sit on my lap calmly purring, her soft, strong zen energy reminding me of what is most present and alive every day: our connection to each other. I wanted to be reminded of what is good, pure, and can never be defeated.

As the team of us sat together today processing everything, we talked about what is still heartening us and emboldening us. What heartens me most right now is knowing that at our core, humans have access to connect with each other and to what is best in us. We do have to practice and commit to it. And I KNOW it is possible. What came immediately to mind were our Four Pillars of Shared Leadership. They are both behind me and ahead of me as both beacons of light and guideposts for how I want to act that give me hope and strength. Our Shared Humanity has not disappeared. We can and must commit to being Equal Learning Partners as we move forward. We will cultivate our Wholeness every time we deeply listen to each other and share with authenticity. We can create more innovatively and compassionately through making space for our Collective Wisdom to rise, from our ancestors to us now.

I want to stand for what is best in us in everything I do. That is what is so important to me about the work we do here at GRTL in our work with teams and organizations. How can we rise into our best selves all the time and particularly when it is hard? How do we speak to each other not only with respect, but reverence? Who and how we are with each other matters. It has always mattered. Right now, how much it matters has been brought into crystal clear focus. In every group we are in, how will we stand for love and being our best selves in service of our healing? How will we show compassion to those we disagree with so we don’t perpetuate divisiveness? What would our everyday lives look like if we all stood on the side of radical love?

I am beginning with a conversation with a family member I know voted for Trump. I know she loves and respects me, as I do her. I am asking her to tell me why she voted for him and letting her know I am scared and why. She has been very gracious about engaging with me in the conversation, knowing I’m not trying to convince her of anything, simply seeking to understand. May I meet her graciousness with her and everyone else I engage with.

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Our Community’s Wholeness In Practice

Our Community’s Wholeness In Practice

We invite you to share what practices or norms you are finding to cultivate your wholeness in and through your work. What does balance look and feel like for you, for groups you work with? How does nature cultivate or inform wholeness in your work? What challenges do you face in your practice(s) and how are you meeting them? What are you learning about wholeness?

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Wholeness in Practice

Wholeness in Practice

By The GRTL Team

GRTL Team at Pizza Night

GRTL “Home Team” Members, Lori Hanau, Jodi Clark, and Melissa Whittemore out for Pizza Night.

As Lori Hanau wrote in her article: Leading From Wholeness *  in the July/August issue of Conscious Company Magazine, the daily journey of resetting our balance and wholeness is truly “an inside job.”Inside GRTL, we are committed to exploring what it means to cultivate our own wholeness both individually and collectively in our work together. We offer you our top 10 practices we have been exploring in our daily work life together.

Beauty: We ensure that the spaces we work in have photos, paintings, flowers, a window facing forest or gardens or some other source of beauty. When we travel to other spaces to work with colleagues and clients, we will frequently bring flowers with us to carry that essence of beauty with us. Walking into a conference room that has flowers in it feels immediately different, lighter.

Breathe: Either alone or together we practice breathing deep, slow, intentional breaths. Sometimes it is right before we commence with a meeting together or on the phone with a client or walking into the office. The steps: Feel your feet on the ground. Roll your shoulders back slightly, opening up the chest cavity. Smile inwardly to yourself. Make sure your energy is grounded and calm. The breath should be easy without any forcing. Slowing down even for five minutes sets a Melissa and Jodi at Pizza Nightcompletely different tone for the work ahead. Download GRTL’s Healthy Breath Practice Resource Guide

Commune: We try to eat with each other or outside, but somewhere away from screens and more intentionally with each other and/or the natural world. We also make sure to have a monthly social night out with no work talk allowed focusing on play, restoration, food, celebration or all of the above. (see photo to the left from our pizza night at Orchard Hill Breadworks in Alstead, NH!) During the week, enjoying afternoon tea and home baked scones together is a frequent occurrence since one of our team members has a wife who bakes magnificently and shares generously!

Ask, Don’t Tell: We invite feedback from each other and cultivate our curiosity. It helps us check our egos when we ask more questions rather than assume we have to be certain all the time.

Quiet: We make room for silence, even in the middle of a meeting  or conversation to help balance the busyness that still creeps into our daily lives.

Take it Outside: Much of our work can keep us indoors staring at screens for long stretches of time, impacting our energy levels and physical well-being. Whenever we can take a phone meeting or in person meeting outside, we do so! We ensured that our WiFi does allow us to work outdoors. But we also take walks. A daily walk of 10-15 minutes either alone or with a colleague does wonders for lifting the spirit and resetting, not to mention stretches the legs!

Play On!: Weaving play into a day allows for different kinds of thinking. Play and laughter are great friends. Laughter supports us to become more nourished and relaxed. We shift out of stress and the fight or flight syndrome into a more nurtured state of being. We access more of our creativity. And we celebrate each other in a moment that helps fuel the rest of our work together. We have started having both planned and spontaneous 5 minute dance parties as an intentional moment of play and even as the structure for our team check-in!

Add Music: Even when we aren’t dancing, having music in the background can lift the mood of the work space, as long as it isn’t distracting. One of our team members loves to have classical music in her space. She says: “There is a particular vibrancy to classical music that both lifts me and puts me at ease at the same time. When I have it in my work space, even on low volume, I tend to be more productive and joyful.” And those of us walking by her office are also appreciative to connect to music for even a moment. Deep sighs are heard and felt!! The best breath work ever!!!!

Write it Down: We each try to keep a journal to reflect on our days. What are we noticing? What are we challenged by? What is inspiring us? Surprising us? What do we want to remember and refer to later? We are just now exploring a new norm of writing down our progress with learning new practices together to hold ourselves compassionately accountable and be able to both integrate and track our learning. We believe that personal development, team development and organizational development are all essential parts of the whole.

Breathe Again: We can find ourselves getting caught into a swirl of activity or stuck in a complex problem that starts to put us into a stressful, anxious, uncreative space. Taking a few slow, even breaths even for 30 seconds can make all the difference to slow us down and remember to access our bodies as sources of wisdom.

What are your top practices to cultivate your wholeness at work? We would love to hear what works for you and your colleagues in the comment section below.  Easily share what you love from our practices with your colleagues: Top Ten Practices for Cultivating Wholeness at Work… Click To Tweet

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End of the evening at Orchard Hill Community Pizza Night

End of the evening at Orchard Hill Community Pizza Night, August 2016.

*Title from print edition article

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A Hundred Strangers

A Hundred Strangers

Guest Blog on Shared Leadership by Dhruv Jagasia, CEO and Founder of Dharma Eyewear @dharmaco

Dhruv Jagasia

Dhruv Jagasia

A hundred strangers. That’s how we all started out, at least; as strangers. I took a fifteen minute subway ride to Parsons, walked into the classroom and I sat down at a desk not too far from the front. After all, I knew Lori Hanau well and I wanted to experience firsthand what was about to happen. Little did I know what would actually happen.

I knew that Lori was a community builder within the management programs at Marlboro College Graduate School and that she worked in the Shared Leadership space, but I hadn’t yet experienced her work outside of the ultra-liberal safe-zone that is Marlboro College. I’m a graduate student at Marlboro, working towards my MBA in Conscious Business. There, in the tiny city of Brattleboro, Vermont, amongst yogis, business people and non-profiteers, Lori had cultivated a close-knit community at a graduate school in which our hybrid in-person and online learning setup meant that we commuted from as far as California, New York and Florida. “Building a community there mustn’t be too hard, I thought. After all, we’re all a bunch of pseudo-hippies. Sitting in circles and talking about our feelings comes naturally to us.”

“So how the hell was Lori going to achieve that in New York?” I thought. New York is so densely packed and the pace of the day is so quick that by the end of the day, most people want to lock themselves in their apartment or in a bar, let alone sit together with strangers and talk about the “f” word – feelings.


“Okay, everyone, let’s all take our desks and turn them so we form a circle,” she said, after introducing herself and introducing us to the four pillars of shared leadership. Circle was something I was used to and had been exposed to going to school at Marlboro. There, we were all considered ‘learning partners’. Sure, it can sound a bit cheesy, but flattening hierarchies can introduce a sense of ease, openness and ownership (at the best of times).That meant that we spoke up to professors or administrators if we thought they were in the wrong. In a way, it turned professors in to students as well; there was a sense that they were there to learn from us just as much as we were there to learn from them.

But what about these Parson’s students, teachers, and otherwise New York professionals? How would they react to it? I could sense a little uneasiness, but we were all reassured by Lori’s calm and pervasive sense of confidence that filled the room. “She’s bringing a bit of Marlboro to New York,” I thought to myself. “This should be interesting.”


The first thing you’ll notice about Lori Hanau is that she is wacky – in the most charming and disarming way possible. She’s smiling, she’s laughing, she’s cracking jokes, she’s goofy – but she’s Lori. And that is what she preaches. “We need to show up in our humanity and in our wholeness,” she would often say. I hadn’t really understood what that meant until that night at Parsons. Just as being vulnerable and opening yourself up to others allows others to open up around you, being your goofiest self, if that’s who you really are, gives others the confidence to show up authentically, too. In a few moments, we went from being a mix of strangers, unsure of ourselves and unsure of each other, to laughing and sharing deep vulnerabilities; some stuff, I’m sure, not even our closest loved ones knew about us.


At one point, we were practicing an exercise where we all stood in a circle, and we would take turns sharing vulnerabilities and stepping further into the circle and, thus, out of our comfort zones. The most profound moment occurred when one of the teachers, whom many of the students were familiar with, admitted to everyone that speaking in front of others filled with him a sense of anxiety and dread. At first, we were shocked. He’s a professor, after all. And then, we all held him together in a sense of nurturing. It was like we were all saying, “there, there… we understand… it’s okay.” No one said anything, but that’s what we all felt and we cared for him in that moment. We transcended our individual selves, we became a community and, without words, we felt as one. In that moment, I understood what shared vulnerability meant, and how powerful communities can be.

Collective Wisdom

And I realized the power of vulnerability, as after the professor spoke, a very young student said another thing that shocked us all with its rawness and its bold truth. Here was a nineteen year old student speaking with maturity, with poise, and with assuredness. In that moment, she immediately gained all of our respect for being vulnerable and for being her true self. I can’t imagine many other scenarios where someone so young could be so openly bold and frank, speaking amongst her peers and adults, many of whom she did not know, and could be regarded with that much respect. Community norms established and held by us all in the last hour had allowed for her personal growth in that moment.

Shared Leadership

Now that I think about it, Lori Hanau had not issued one single command. She only asked us that we form a circle. She only asked us to be ourselves. She only asked us to share space with each other. She asked us to listen with intention. She only asked us to respect ourselves – whoever we are. Whoever we are – that can’t be stressed enough. No judgments were issued. Here was a safe space, in the middle of New York City.

She did not lead in a traditional sense; she was not our boss. We were given the space to be human, to grow, to laugh, to learn, to be kind, to cheer and to be together. This was Shared Leadership; this was the product of Equality, Wholeness, Humanity and Collective Wisdom.

By the end of the workshop, we were no longer strangers. The kinship we felt cannot now be put into words. The way we felt, as one, could never be truly synthesized into this article. But, one thing became certain. If Lori Hanau can convert strangers with all sorts of superficial differences into kindred spirits in just a couple hours in the middle of New York City, we can create kinship and community anywhere. And our world needs this more than ever.

Many of us feel, I’m sure, a sense of longing, of loneliness, of disconnection and discontent. Especially in an age of electronic-device proliferation. What many of us want, I think, is to be needed, to belong, to be close to other people; to be part of something bigger than ourselves. That is but a small part what community offers us.
So I urge you to step out of your comfort zone. I urge you to be vulnerable. I urge you to give others the space to be their authentic whole selves, to grow, to earn respect, and to be human. Everyone has a leader hidden inside of them. All we have to do is let that seed flower and watch the world become a better place.

Dhruv participated in Lori Hanau’s Shared Leadership Workshop at Parsons School of Design in the Spring of 2015. We so appreciate him sharing his insights and reflections about his experience. For additional reflections from that workshop and Shared Leadership Practices, see Lori Hanau and Claire Wheeler’s May/June article in Conscious Company MagazineLead Better By Putting People First

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